Chances Are… You’ve Wondered Who You Really Are

Posted by RZIM Canada on January 10, 2017
Topic: Chances Are



In the movie Anger Management, Jack Nicholson, who plays a therapist, asks Adam Sandler, a seemingly even-keeled character, a very simple question: “Who are you?” Sandler’s character goes on to describe several things about himself: his personality, his hobbies, his accomplishments, etc. At every turn the therapist slyly looks at him and says that those are things about him, but not “who he is”. Sandler eventually erupts in frustration when no answer seems to satisfy his inquisitor.

How many of us would struggle to answer that question? It may seem simple enough, but to really answer it, one must do more than a personal inventory of hobbies, portfolios, and accomplishments. This requires mining into one’s soul to find the person at the core.

It’s easy to make who we are the result of effort and circumstance: He’s an athlete. She’s a professor. He’s a drug addict. She’s a CEO of a large company. While those things may shape and sometimes influence us, they should not define us.

What happens when a surgeon can no longer operate or a model loses camera appeal or an athlete’s career is ended due to injury? This is why it’s important to know “who you are” beyond the career and contracts and things that have been part of your life. Those are layers of life in which we’ve been wrapped (and maybe even trapped).

It’s been proven a powerful healing to stand before a group of empathetic strugglers and admit that, “I’m so and so … and I’m an alcoholic.” But what that person is saying is, “This is where my actions and circumstances have brought me—I’m wrapped up in this—but I want don’t want this to define me. I want to be the person beneath all this.”

C.S. Lewis said, “We are what we believe we are.” The Christian worldview holds that our identity is not derived from what has made us, but rather from who has made us. We are not chemical or cosmic accidents scratching out an existence. We are not more highly evolved animals who lucked out in the gene pool. We are created by a loving and personal God.

That God placed into each and every person intrinsic worth — an indelible identity and the ability to give and receive love from one another.

When a person comes to God, there is no need to bring a résumé or trophy case or financial statement. God sees past the identity that has been embellished by accomplishments or shattered by defeat. God knows and sees “who we are”. And God invites us to bring ourselves—our true selves—to the One who knows us and actually gave his life for us.


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